If you’re a mom dealing with a colicky baby or a toddler who just hit the terrible twos, and you have a desire to pursue your purpose and achieve big goals, you’ve likely wondered many times, “will parenting ever get any easier?”
And you know what, the answer is yes!
Just think about it, you’ve never heard of a colicky ten-year-old. And as for the terrible twos…that doesn’t last forever either. There’s no 14-year old’s throwing their toys and then throwing themselves down into a full-blown tantrum in the grocery store. At least I hope not!
So you decide that, it makes sense to hold off on pursuing the goals and dreams you desire to pursue. Because in just a few years, this parenting gig will be so much easier, and that’s when you’ll be able to focus more on all that you desire to accomplish.
Easy-peasy right?
But what if I were to tell you that even though it gets easier, it never gets more convenient.
Yes, the stages of parenting may get easier. But every stage will require a lot of you.
The Baby Stage
Babies are very needy; and rightfully so! They’re new to this world. They require help with feedings, changings, getting to sleep, moving, and so on. It’s a lot of work for a mom, because honestly, there’s not too much a baby can do without you.
The Toddler Stage
This stage is often full of growth and many firsts. In that respect it can be a very fun and exciting stage. But it’s also a time of the dreaded “terrible twos.” A time when the child is growing in independence, and learning how to process and manage their feelings and emotions. It definitely requires a great deal of attentiveness and patience from mom.
The Preschool Stage
This is a bittersweet stage. It’s the stage where you realize just how much your baby has grown! During this stage your child is most likely headed off to school. But whether they’re in attendance for a full day or a half of day, they still require so much of you. When they’re ready to play, it’s often you they want to play with. When they’re ready to read, it’s you they want to read to them. They have hundreds of questions and they want to help and be a part of everything that mom does.
The Grade School Stage
By this time your child is in the full throes of school. They’ll need help with homework, projects, getting to and from extracurricular activities, dealing with mean kids/bullies, growing in self-confidence, and so much more.
The Teenager Stage
This could easily be the most difficult stage yet. Teenagers can be hormonal, moody, and insist on asserting their independence. But no matter how grown they think they are; they still need lots of time and attention from their mom. They deal everyday with the stresses of school work, peer pressure, body image and dating. This is also the time many of them get their first jobs, learn how to drive, and start preparing for college.
As you can see, our children need us through every stage. Yes, some stages are easier than others, but they all require much of our time and attention.
If you are going to accomplish all the things you desire to accomplish, you can’t wait for easy and you can’t wait for convenience. The perfect time is not going to magically present itself. You have to make time for yourself, or time will pass you by; and your dreams will remain just that, a dream.
Parenting will get easier; and so will learning to make time for yourself, while being a parent. But first you have to start!
I hope you enjoyed this post! Don’t forget to share it, so that others can enjoy it too!!
I’m not a parent, but your point of view made me understand many things!
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Glad to hear that😊
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I love this post. It’s an especially great post for new moms. First time motherhood is a time of doubt and nerves. You wonder if you’re doing it right, and you definitely wonder if it will ever get easier.
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So true!
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It’s funny how toddler stages mirror life stages. Parenting will definitely get easier but stay interesting.
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Yes!
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Totally loving the elementary stage. They are old enough to be fun and have conversations and be independent about a lot of things BUT they still love us 😉
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It’s a wonderful stage for sure!
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Thank you, I recognise all the stages…Despite the obvious things like teething, ‘pottying,’ odd sulks, et al, I LOVED those days. My three lads were quite good but had the usual teenage ‘know it all’ period when I was told I was “out of the ark..” But they’ve all grown up to be cracking human beings.
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That’s awesome! I can honestly say I’ve loved every stage, even the difficult ones!
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Maybe parenting isn’t easy, but the rewards are beyond belief!
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Yes!!!
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Honestly, my parents still sometimes parent me now and I’m in my 30s! I think it just gets different but it never gets easier. Thanks so much for sharing this with all of us!
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Your welcome😊
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hhaha. the quote about teenagers made me laugh. my mom always assumes i know how to fix something since i’m younger. haha. wish i did 😉
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I thought that quote was so funny too!
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I think the most difficult time with raising my kids was when they were about 8. That is when the back talking started. After that it got easier
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I know all about the back talking and the eye rolls!😞😞
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I’m not going to lie, I’m terrified of having children because I’m so afraid my parenting skills will be severely lacking and raising them will just get more and more challenging.
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There are challenges. But in my experience, the good has always outweighed the difficult!
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For me, rather than saying easier, I would say different. There are a lot of things that do get easier, but a lot of things that become huge challenges, even with adult children. The crises can become way more complicated. But at the end of the day, the responsibility is more theirs and less mine. But it doesn’t make the difficulties in life feel that much better to see them go through some tough times.
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Yes, I can agree with “different!”
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I’ll tell you when it gets easier–when you become a Grandparent! I am enjoying it so much and there are so many more gadgets and things to help!
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Hahaha…I look forward to it!
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I believe there are challenges as well as milestones with every single stage of your child’s life. I don’t think it ever gets easier – it’s all how you approach each situation.
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How you approach each stage and challenge can make all the difference!
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I loved reading this… at times I am sure most parents will have gone through similar, but you just need to personalise to your child xx
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So true!
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I really like your post, especially the advice in there. We can’t keep waiting for when it gets easier or convenience to pursue our dreams or to live. Every parenting stages has it’s own challenges.
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Exactly! We need to purse our goals and dreams now!
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I’m not sure easier is the word I would use. It’s different through every stage, even into adulthood. We become accustomed to sleepless nights, or not sleeping well when we’re worried, or panicking when we get a call from school, or any number of other things. It doesn’t get easier though. For example, I don’t have a colicky teenager, but I do have one with high and variable blood pressure, and we don’t know why. It could be as severe as kidney disease or as nothing at all. These are the things no one tells you about, because no one can. Every child and every parenting experience is completely unique.
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That’s so accurate, every child and parenting experience is unique! Wishing your teenager both health and wellness!
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I don’t have kids so I can’t empathize completely. But trying to raise two cats has me concerned for my sanity. I doubt I will ever be prepared for how hard parenting seems.
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It can be challenging for sure!
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Parenting doesn’t get easy. I think we just get better at it and understanding our kids through each phase.
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That’s a good analysis!
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My babies throwing Tantrums like tick tacks and she doesn’t even have two years. I hope it gets better all right thanks for all the advice
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Your welcome😊
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I can relate to your post very much. I have undergone the stages of parenthood and still experiencing it. Initially it was tough with my son being hyperactive but now its improving slowly. I work full time so it has its own challenges.
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My son is hyperactive too, so I know all about that challenge!
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Yeah there is such a journey here. I don’t think it gets easier. It just changes as what’s expected changes and as your child’s needs change. It’s a journey with an indeterminate conclusion. All you can do in the long run is be there for them during each step in their maturation process and hope it goes well.
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Being there for them is so critical!
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As a teacher, I get to see all these stages in the different students I work with. The teenage years seem to be the most complicated and difficult ones.
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Yes. Sadly, they deal with so much at this age.
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I enjoyed reading this post. The whole parenting thing never stops. It just changes.
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It NEVER stops!
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All the different stages of raising children have their own set of challenges. I am thankful I had my mom living close so I was able to get advice. I would say the most challenging one was the teenage years. But thankfully, we survived! My kids are all grown ups now, making their mark in the corporate world.
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Awesome!
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Being a parent is a life long job. I do think it can get easier with patience
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Lots and lots of patience!
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Growing up years are the most critical especially pre-school as kids need support! They should be given utmost care and attention!
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Yes!
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Amen! Things always change and we are always learning. I agree with making time for yourself. I’m a better mama when I do!
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Me too!
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Great post! I think we all have this beautiful, idealistic view of what ‘tomorrow’ is going to look like, failing to see that we’re going to face challenges every step of the way. Then when things aren’t as smooth and easy as we had anticipated, we allow it to tear us down. As you said, every stage is going to demand time and energy, and that’s okay! Being realistic about it will let you develop a working plan of action to balance everything that you want to achieve (or not, and that’s okay too!)
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Yes, I couldn’t agree more!
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